So you’re having another baby.
You’ve likely already got most things you need for tiny human number two (or five). The crib has been handed down from sibling to sibling. Ditto for clothes and toys. You’ve stripped and stuffed your cloth diapers. Or stocked up on disposables when there were sales. Perhaps you’ve created this babe’s special nest already...a nursery with their own unique theme. Or you’ve prepped your room for safe cosleeping; ready for when your sweet bub is earthside.
But what about your other kiddos? They, too, are about to experience a life changing event. They are about to become a big sibling! As my entire focus, or mission is to support people (all people) as they become families, it is clear that sometimes that support might look like sibling support.
So what is a Sibling Doula? Well they are someone who helps prepare a tiny human for the arrival of their baby brother or sister. Then, when your baby is ready to be born, a sibling doula comes to be with your older children, and stays throughout the birth. This can be helpful, regardless of whether you are birthing at home or in hospital. The sibling doula can help your older children understand (at an age appropriate level) what is happening with their parents and baby, through use of books, crafts, or simply child-led discussion.
Sounds great, right?
Here are the top 5 reasons you should have a sibling doula for your next birth:
1. You’ve got your own stuff going on! Mama! You’re pregnant. You’re working hard, growing a human, WHILE CARING FOR OTHER HUMANS outside your body. It’s a lot, and you don’t need to wear ALL the hats. Let a sibling doula lighten that load.
2. You might not have local family. It can be hard to figure out childcare (in between contractions, no less). A sibling doula can come at any time of day or night, within a moment’s notice. With family living out of town, this can give a grace period until Nana or Papa can come.
3. Even if your family is local, they may not be available. Babes like to be born at night. Often immediately after everyone who is not pregnant has settled in, and nodded off. So let your sweet grandma sleep, and let a sibling doula care for your littles, until grandma can make it.
4. You’re in control. With a sibling doula supporting your family, you are worry free. She has met with you prior to understand your birth vision, and comfort level with what information you would like your older children to have. You don’t have to worry about what language is being used.
5. You can rely on her expertise. As a graduate of childhood studies, as well as a certified doula and parent educator, I am well-versed in what is developmentally appropriate behaviour from older siblings, expecting a baby brother or sister. I am also experienced on fostering a healthy, loving sibling relationship and have a variety of books and activities to help establish positive feelings surrounding the birth and new baby.
I would love to hear your thoughts and questions about my sibling doula offering.
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