Summer is often THE time to focus on potty training (given that your child is ready of course. Not sure? Check out this post for signs of readiness). It's often ideal because time moves a little slower, we spend more time together, often outside, and let’s be real...some of us just NEED to get this done before our little starts school in September.
Because of this, I love to offer special discounts during July and August. And people! It's not too late to take advantage of these deals. Check out this post for some coupon codes.
So let's talk a bit more about some big time YESSES and some big time NOPES for summertime potty time.
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School’s almost out and it's prime time for potty training!
Potty training in the summer can be perfect timing for many families:
So with that in mind, if your child is showing signs of potty readiness, and you don't know how to start, I'm offering some fantastic summer deals.
The parent coaching deal isn't specifically focussed on potty training, however sometimes this milestone can stir up a lot of emotions within our toddler (and ourselves). If this is the case, I am happy to offer some techniques to help you find your parenting groove again.
Ready to access these great deals?
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Recently, I've noticed some new followers, so I thought it would be a good time to introduce myself.
My name is Laura and I am a mom to two boys in the Forest City in Canada. I (like so many of us) adore tiny humans, well most humans actually. Unlike most people, I chose a super small program at university; I studied Childhood as a Social Construct. The basic idea is that children are humans….active agents in their own right. That the idea of needing to treat them differently is wrong, that they are simply humans, with less experience on this blue marble.
Many (sigh) years later, I met Carol Peat of Babies Naturally, and heard her referring to a baby as a tiny human. It stopped me in my tracks. Outside of my academic pursuits (and personal relationships), I've never heard people speak this way. I chose to study with her to become a perinatal support practitioner (doula) and parent educator. I truly adore bearing witness and providing support to people as they become families. It is so much more than many think, it truly changes a mother's BRAIN and a partner’s way of viewing and participating in the world.
Then comes the poop.
I learned quickly that potty training is a challenge that most parents feel lost on. Like all things parenting, you can find so many conflicting ideas online. It can make even the most zen parent doubt themselves. Why??? I think it's because innately, we know that it is a huge milestone and we don't want to screw it up. Yes it is a huge milestone, and that's why I choose to provide all the best information and support so YOU can feel confident and get that sh*t done. In essence, the potty support I provide is just one facet of parent education. It's learning how not to be triggered, learning how to be firm AND kind, drawing the line between assertive and aggressive, reflecting the facts...it's giving you a toolbox for a very specific issue, that the roots of can be used for every situation.
To sum up...I love humans, big and small and I especially love helping get them back to themselves, which can be tough when you scraping poop out of a highchair.
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Have you started potty training and have reached a bump in the road?
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So here's a question I ask potty-training parents when we work one-on-one…
“How expensive is your rug, exactly?”
The number of people who are so concerned with their material things leads me to believe that there are a lot of people with far fancier rugs than I.
New potty learners will absolutely get pee on the floor. I don't even like to call these “accidents” in early days because an accident implies they know differently. In early days, your child is releasing her/his pee as they always have! They care not about the cost of your special order hardwood floors, your Persian rugs!
So let's have a mindshift together.
First, try to experience potty learning as a milestone similar to learning to walk. Of course your child stumbled and tumbled. We view this as progress! Let's do the same for when s/he dribbles a spot of pee on the floor. Wipe it up with some paper towel, and move on.
Second, take some deep breaths and approach potty training in a positive, or at least neutral frame of mind. Children, like all humans, can absolutely pick up on dread...so do some deep yoga breaths, have a cup of tea (or glass of wine!) and relax before you head into this incredible learning opportunity.
Last...ROLL UP THE DAMN RUG! If you truly have precious items, put them away temporarily or spend more time with your child in the kitchen, where hopefully the floors can take a dribble or two.
As always, if you need help, please email me. We can do this.
As children begin potty training, it can be super common for them to begin withholding their poops. This is often confused with constipation...and the two are in fact linked, but not the same thing.
Withholding is a conscious, or unconscious decision to hold in poop. Constipation is what can occur after days of withholding.
So why all the poop talk? I'm trying to normalize what can feel very scary to potty learners and their parents. The less we fret about bowel movements, the more likely they are to take place.
If you have some withholding taking place (take some zen breaths) and add FAT to your child's diet. Good healthy fats include coconut oil, full fat coconut milk (in a can), seed/nut butters, regular butter, avocado, full fat yogurt, etc. Fats maintain a soft poop, in fact, much better than the ole standby, fibre. Fibre requires a TON of water to do its job, and can also sometimes lead to explosive poops, which is the LAST thing a potty learner needs.
If you're looking for recipes that add healthy fats to your child's diet, or need help with other potty training issues, please contact me.
Absolutely the number 1 (ok ok, #2 question, but more on that later) question I am asked as a potty training expert.
"When is my child ready?"
First things first, let's talk semantics. The word ready isn't quite fitting. What I am interested in is when is your child capable. Many children seem hesitant to start using the potty, yet are MORE than capable. If you can compare it to giving birth, you might not ever feel truly ready, but you are definitely capable.
Anyhoo...signs that your child might be capable of starting potty training include:
Have further questions? Please email me or enrol now in a potty training workshop near you.
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2 cups recently boiled water
2 tbsp castille soap (or whatever you use for babe)
2 tbsp grapeseed oil (olive, fractionated coconut oil would also work)
a few drops lavender oil (calming) *optional
a few drops tea tree oil (anti-fungal) *optional
Mix and decant into a squirt top bottle
I quadruple the recipe and store in a giant pickle jar so I don't have to make as often.
I keep a little Tupperware container on the change table to soak washcloth/flannel wipe (pre-wipe). Then after cleaning that bum, I toss into a wetbag until laundry day.
Reusable wipes will get gummy in time. I find a good soak in oxyclean (or similar) every other wash keeps them fresh. Also, be sure to wash thoroughly if your child has issues with yeast.
Happy (?) wiping!